If you’re a health and wellness professional, I bet you are kind, compassionate, and you are also driven to help others. These are some of the qualities that make you a great health coach.
What if there was one other quality you could add to the mix that would make you irresistible to your dream clients?
I know when I first started out as a health coach I was fearful of letting my guard down. I was afraid to let my clients know that I struggled with some of the same things they did. I guess I thought I was supposed to have it all figured out, and I shouldn’t let my clients know that I had struggles too.
What I came to realize is that nothing could be further from the truth.
Our clients aren’t looking for a coach that’s perfect; they’re looking for a coach that is perfect for them.
How do you feel when you are listening to a keynote speaker, and they share where they came from; their hardships and their challenges? We tend to think successful people have always been that way. When they share their story, they become more like us, and they are much more relatable. It’s as though the walls come down, and we instantly like them.
When people know that you’re human, you’re not perfect, and you have overcome your own struggles (or maybe you’re still working on them) they can relate to you so much more. People instantly feel like “Wow, he/she totally gets me!”
That’s who people want to work with. If you come across as being too perfect, your clients won’t feel nearly as comfortable being honest with you. They are likely to be fearful that you are judging them in some way.
I always share how I grew up on a lot of processed foods, and I wish I knew then what I know now, etc. I also tell my clients I don’t have a perfect diet. I eat fresh, healthy foods most of the time, but I’m also fine splurging on cookies or french fries once in a while. They always have a sigh of relief, and I know it lets them feel that it’s okay to be real with me.
Maybe you’re still on your weight loss journey, or you’re still working on eating healthier. Whatever it is, no one expects you to be perfect, and in fact, most people will relate to you so much more when they see that you’re human too. Our clients can easily feel insecure around us, and may not be truthful with their progress or if they’ve gotten off track. Let them know up front that you aren’t perfect, and you don’t expect them to be perfect either.
You have a story to tell – make it real.
Share some of what you’ve learned and a little bit about the ‘mess’ you may have been in the past. You don’t have to share all the nitty gritty details, but just be you and don’t be afraid to lay some of your cards on the table. Of course, you have to be selective with what you share, but your clients want to know about your struggles too.
You never know who you may inspire by sharing what you have overcome or what you are currently working on to become an even better version of YOU.
Let me know what you think 🙂
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I have been sharing myself more and more and it makes my clients relate to me in a better way.
Hi Linda! That’s great to hear. It’s always helpful to know what other coaches are doing too. Thanks for sharing!
~Kathleen
I totally agree with this. Speak from the heart. Your clients will love you for it.
Brave, Beautiful, Bold not perfect.
Hi Peggy,
Well said 🙂 Love it!
Hi Kathleen, Thank you for this blog. It was perfect timing for me. I have been feeling like I am so busy working on my business and my clients that I haven’t paid enough attention to my own body. Of course for me that means feeling like someone who doesn’t know what she’s talking about-those voices are popping up again. Lucky for me, my clients do appreciate my relatability.
Thanks for stopping by, Debbie! It’s easy to forget to take care of ourselves sometimes, and it just shows that we’re human too. I hope you find some time to take care of you every day this week 🙂
Thanks Kathleen for the reminder…I too often can get caught up in telling my fitness participants what to do and how to do it, without taking the time to share something personal to help them relate to me as a person who understands how challenging it can be. I enjoy your emails 🙂
Hey Corinne! I remember one of my first sessions with a personal trainer years ago. I was overweight and feeling discouraged. The trainer (who looked amazing) shared her story of how she was overweight too a few years earlier. It instantly made me like her more because I knew she totally understood where I was coming from. Can’t wait to hear how it goes. I bet they’ll love you even more!
I do this all the time ie. feel bad about not being exactly on track. I’m realizing that doesn’t help anyone, and it’s good to read that I’m not the only one who does this. :o)
Thanks Kathleen!
This was a great post! Just what I needed to hear especially since I do fitness training as well. You are so right people don’t want a perfect person but they do want someone that understands what they are going through!